Why I'm NOT Shredding for the Wedding
WOW! Can you believe we are in new DECADE?!
Not only is it 2020, but we are exactly 111 days from our wedding (not that anyone’s counting). SO instead of doing ALL the things, I am going to blog about it!
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Since getting engaged in June, I have been bombarded with products, programs, and guides, aiming to give me advice on how to create the ‘most perfect day ever.’ Included in this advice, is how to shrink my body to be in ‘wedding shape.’
If Joey were to ask me to marry him 2-3 years ago, you better believe I would be starting a new ‘lifestyle’, and I most likely would be taking you on the joy-sucking journey with me!!
Don’t get me wrong, it’s tempting, but this year I’m smarter…and you are too. I know that diets don’t work, and end up doing more harm than good. We are led to believe that when we lose the weight, everything else in our life will magically fall into place as well.
But what happens when life happens? We end up overeating, stuck in a never ending replay of negative self-talk. After wallowing in the guilt, we muster up the ‘discipline’ to start again, under eating and over sweating.
After years of dieting and overcoming an exercise addiction, I vowed to never diet again. I want to be fully present in this season of life, regardless of how chaotic it may seem.
Here are the reasons why I am NOT shredding for the wedding.
He loves me for me, regardless of my size. Ladies, I already have the ring!! CLEARLY, he too would’ve waited til I was skinnier to pop the question if this mattered. This man is asking to spend the rest of his life with me the way that I am. The closest ones to our hearts accept us as we are, in this moment, so why is it so hard for us to do the same?
A smaller version of me is not a better version. I think back to my smallest size, and boy was she in a rough spot! Losing weight will make me lighter, but it won’t make me any kinder, richer, or smarter. I wouldn’t trade my brain or energy for that body. I’ve learned to redefine my version of ‘fit’ to now include so much more than just the number on the scale.
I refuse to give another dollar to the weight loss industry. If I were to calculate how much money I have spent in my journey to achieve a six pack, I would vomit. Nothing fires me up more than hearing how much my clients have spent on pre-packaged meals, diet programs, weight loss trackers, and supplements. It is sickening!! This cost alone could pay for a wedding! Joey and I still are paying off student debt (but much closer thanks to FPU!), and are funding the majority of our wedding. Let’s be real - I have champagne taste on a beer budget, so I WILL NOT waste my money on this BS.
I don’t have the brain space to micromanage my food choices. Um but have you tried to follow a diet?! It can take legit hours researching, planning, shopping, and prepping in the kitchen. I do not have time to run to 3 different Whole Foods to find an all-organic, unflavored, stevia based, plant oil!! (jk totally not a thing, but you get what I mean) Then to track every morsel that goes into my mouth? There’s just not enough room in the noggin for that nonsense.
I’d rather focus on the details we will actually remember. I want to be in the moment for the special moments that matter - the look on his face as I walk down the aisle, the belly laughs from the kiddos on the dance floor, the blessings my brother will speak upon us in the ceremony, and more. If I am hyper-focused on my stomach or the dimple on my biceps, how can I truly be fully present?
I hope this inspires you to not just ditch your diet for an upcoming wedding, vacation, or event, but to stop dieting for good, and start living.
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